The need to accept “misfortunes” in our lives is mentioned in the Glorious Qur’an in 57 Al Hadeed (Iron): 22-23. The tafseer books say that all “misfortunes” that happen to people and things are written in a record before taking place. True Muslims, therefore, will accept any misfortune that happen to them as a test from Allah to make them stronger; the problems we encounter are needed for our development. This is similar to going to the Weight Room to strengthen our bodies. Lifting weights should not make us sad; it should make us stronger.
Facing problems could result in making your “mental muscles” stronger; they act as resistance to stretch against. Our mathematics teacher used to give us problems to solve because he wants to sharpen our minds; the more problems we solve, the stronger and wiser we become. Accepting our misfortunes does not mean that we do nothing about them. On the contrary, we are requested to do every thing we can to protect ourselves and then accept the result. We are responsible about actions but not accountable for the results. This belief is essential to free oneself from the danger of becoming “fed-up” with life. Don’t despair over things that pass you by.
The same aayah (verse) warns against exultation when we receive “Allah’s blessings.” When we receive the blessings we should thank Allah for his guidance and express our gratitude to Allah; when we receive misfortunes, we should show patience. The “ups-and-downs” of life are met by “gratitude-and-patience.”
Some Muslims, however take full credit for the blessings of Allah and relate them to their own intelligence, hard work and their determination to succeed. They “inflate” themselves and become vainglorious boasters, a character not loved by Allah.
The verse of the aayaat (plural of aayah)” says, ” No misfortunate can happen on earth or in your souls but recorded in a decree before We bring it into existence: that is truly easy for Allah; In order that you may not despair that pass you by, nor exult over favors bestowed upon you. For Allah does not love any vainglorious boaster.” (57:22-23)